I have a friend expecting her first child next year (yay!) and she asked about how we potty train our children. We potty trained Kate/Sims at 23 months, Claire at 22 months, Henry at 21 months, and Jack at 20 months. I did not find that there was any difference between boys and girls "getting" it.
Here's what we do:
1. I plan a time where I can be home for 3 days and I do not leave the house until they "get it". I always start on a Monday.
2. On Monday morning, the child goes straight to underwear. No pull-ups. The kids do wear diapers at nap and at night for awhile.
3. I give the child plenty to drink. They need practice learning what the sensation feels like.
4. I take the child to the bathroom every 10-15 mins. It's exhausting, really. The hardest part is when I take them to the bathroom and they sit there for 10 mins, get up, and tee-tee all over the floor. AHHHHHH!!!!! I just have to remember that they are learning! :) I DO tell them firmly that tee-tee goes in the potty, not of the floor. Hey-it's weird saying that to y'all but that's what I say.
5. I've used a baby potty for most of the kids but I did not use it with Sims. I just sat him on the toilet and he was fine.
6. I've told Rick EVERY TIME after the first day that the child is not getting it and I wonder if I should just try again when they are 7. Thankfully, he knows I do this and encourages me to keep going. Each child has had between 10-20 accidents the first day. Well, everyone except for Sims. He only had about 5-this makes him my favorite child. :) Kidding!
7. Everyone has gotten it either the 2nd or 3rd day. At this point, I do leave the house for extra practice. I take them to the bathroom before we leave and when we arrive where we are going.
I don't really do "rewards." Kate did request chapstick a couple of times and Jack wanted MMs but I wasn't consistent with them. That's probably a fun thing to do, I'm just not crafty enough to make a chart and get everything organized.
That's about it. The rest of the week I continue to stretch out the time between bathroom trips. I continue to suggest to the child that they go to the bathroom for a couple of weeks and by then, they can tell me when they need to go. It is a very hard few days but then the work is done! I know many people who wait until their child is 3 or so and then may have an easier time of it; I've just always liked to get it done.
Any other questions about this I forgot to answer? If you have other/different tips for my friend, just leave a comment!